For as long as I can remember I have always struggled with self loathing. No specifically physically, but mentally I hate who I am as a person. I know I’m not a bad person I just never like who I am. It’s hard really to explain, but if anyone else does not like who they are and has any tricks on living with it or changing it they would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.
Artist Ewan McClure paints a self portrait by looking at his face and the canvas in a mirror
jennyo120: Read The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson. If you want to change, this is an essential.
galacticduchess: My therapist told me there are three layers of self, from outward to inward they are: self esteem, self image, and sense of self worth. A sense of self worth needs to be established so the outside layers can grow as well. I’ve started doing DBT workbooks to work on more mindfulness and self forgiveness. Spending time with just yourself away from the computer or other people can do wonders for your sense of self.
Life is about balance, so for everything bad I think about myself, I try to find 2 good things about myself every day. But self forgiveness and sense of self are essentials to growing better self esteem.
redpotatoszsz: pillars of self esteem book
NightingaleY: Make a list of traits you like and have goals you work towards, write out/talk to someone about the bad things.
Fortunalux: I used to feel this way about myself too. I don’t have any books to suggest, but one thing I did was try really hard to notice any time I did something right or good, even totally minor stuff like just getting somewhere on time or putting others first. It didn’t suddenly give me tremendous self esteem, but I definitely think it helped me gain some respect for myself, and from there I started to notice things about myself that I liked and learnt to forgive the things I didn’t like. Good luck, my friend.