Im a 20 year old male and Im sitting here wondering how I haven’t come across any girls in my life who would be great to be in a relationship, Im looking for the right person obviously, how do you go about the whole relationship thing in 2017? I tried tinder and that is broken/you get nasty people… what im saying is, I want to learn relationships and how if you are in one got into one? Obviously you dont just go to every girl on the street haha
heca_bomb: You just gotta keep going out and meeting people face-to-face. As cold and as harsh as it is, meeting the right one is a combination of opportunity, circumstance and meeting lots of people.
And when you date the advice is really clichéd:
Meet people – this is a seriously enriching process
Be yourself (unless you’re wanted in 10 different states for manslaughter or Harvey Weinstein)
Give your potential partners time to grow and reveal themselves to you, don’t write them off after one date
Respect their wants and needs. Always get their consent for anything!
Stay positive! No one (including you) wants to hang out with the person that goes “oh hey, the apocalypse is tomorrow there’s no reason to do shit”
TLDR be a decent human being
And if the dating goes well and you’re in a relationship – awesome.
Then the hard bits start.
Relationships take a hilarious amount of work and sometimes it works, sometimes she’s Talia Al Ghul and she stabs you in the back before trying to blow up Gotham. But keep having the faith and patience that the person you’re dating isn’t a lying, cheating scumbag.
And if it all works, let us know – everyone’s still trying to figure it out too.
Jamsterking1: I wouldn’t totally give up on tinder, I met my current girlfriend there, we were pretty like minded in knowing a lot of horrible people use it. I honestly thought it wasn’t going anywhere when I was talking to her through the app, she was quite reserved, gave one word answers a lot. Then eventually thought ‘fuck it’ and asked her out anyway. After like 3 months after matching of on and off messaging through tinder we met up.
So far it’s been the best decision I ever made.
telkrops: Have you tried other sites? Okcupid is free, and you get a chance to chat online before actually meeting anyone. I’ve known couples who have met on that, Tinder, and plentyoffish…I’d just stay away from like, Craigslist personals. The more people you talk to, the more you’ll understand people…just a matter of getting yourself out there sometimes.
CommanderChewie: Cheers yeah I guess I dont want to force a relationship with tinder haha
David-Eight: There’s no problem with walking up to a girl in the street and asking them out, just don’t be a dick about it
Red_Pill_Will: Stop looking and it will happen.